My Wife Your Friend

A TOT FOR YOUNG AGED WIVES. 

Growing up in a Christian family,  I’ve had so many privileges,  some of which I don’t intend mentioning on this platform. It is an obvious truth that religion enjoys the pride of being recognized along side other human concepts such as culture, society, idiosyncrasy and conscience; which shape and influence man's actions and reactions to life. These concepts also go a long way to defining the criteria for every human relationship. The nature of this definition is not relevant at this instance, because the fulcrum of the submission here is that human relationships are cardboard under certain criteria, under certain concepts. 

The question whether young aged wives should keep single male friends cannot and should not be treated within any conceptual confine. Hence, the first attempt here is to project an objective outlook of the whole idea of friendship/relationship. *Note that in this periscope,  friendship would be used in the same light with relationship*.

Relationship is simply an interaction between two individuals with a purposive agenda. This implies that every relationship is a purposive enterprise. There is always an end to every relationship. Every act of coming together is either geared towards a sincere benefit or towards an insincere one. There is never a void in relationships. To build on this fermitude is to agree on the varied levels of intensity in relationships. Nonetheless,  it is socially, a misnomer to say that young aged wives should not have fair relationships with single men. Rather,  certain observances can be argued to serve as reprimands in such relationships. 

The imminent concern is that of intimacy. The concept of intimacy should be relegated far from the glimpse of such relationships. There is never a reason for a young aged wife to be intimate with any man who is not his husband. We shouldn’t even ague for social intimacy or professional intimacy. There is never ‘a too close relationship’ or ‘a fairly close relationship’. A close relationship is close,  nothing more and nothing less. Therefore the privilege of intimacy should not be thought of being granted,  for whatsoever reason.

In another light, a wife should always be a wife, at all times. The consistency of such consciousness is what will expose the formality of such relationships. Be a wife because a wife is never available at all times. Be a wife because a wife is always dressed like a wife. Be a wife because a wife is always immediately a woman. Be a wife because a wife is always conscious of her husband and her vows.

A very important aspect of this relationship has to do with definitive formality. A wife should not be loosed to the extent that she begins to remind her friend that she is a married woman. It shouldn’t get to that point. The moment such instance turns scene, the spousal integrity of the woman is put into questioning. Therefore, every wife should maintain a considerably formal distance with her male friend and always remain conscious of the fact that there can’t be a best friend apart from her husband. 

Complications in this kind of relationship come when the male friend in question happened to be that all-time best friend who never made it to the alter with her. In this case, it is often too difficult to break such bond,  since it has lasted for too long.  The most appropriate response would be to keep a very wide distance – distance in social communication and residential location. Yet, it takes courage and a whole lots of effort to let go of such a premarital intimacy. Therefore, it bothers on the conscience of the woman to either abuse or induce herself of such emotional displacement. 

In conclusion, it is evident that from the foregoing, we cannot assume that religion, society,  culture, conscience or idiosyncrasy, would best translate the above underscored form of relationship.  Thus, the moment we subject human actions to conceptual judgements, we gain an unclear insight into the whole discourse. Its not about being married but more about consciously recognizing one's status at all times. The moment you loose sight of who you are, you loose sight of what you want. I wish you stability and I wish you love. Thank You.



THEOPET.

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